Wedding speeches are kind of a huge pain to make if you are expected to. Sometimes the off the cuff congratulations might be better, provided that you are someone who can in fact speak off the cuff. For those that are dreading the moment of attention that a toast commands, here are some quick tips that can help you get your focus, and get through it with some grace.
No one expects wedding speeches to be the single most memorable thing of the reception, so relax. First and foremost you need to remember that you are responsible for this toast simply because you are the person that the bride or the groom feels closest to. You are really doing this for them, even if you throw in a few little digs to crank up some embarrassment for both of the celebrated newlyweds.
It might be a good idea to do a little research into the best wedding toasts and speeches online. This can help you get a general outline. Most of these are pretty much insert the relevant names and stories to make it relatable. At the very least you have something in your hands throughout your presentation then that you can return back to and keep you from losing what you were saying and the point you were trying to make.
A good thing to remember is that this really isn’t your time to shine. It is about bringing attention to the bride and groom in a tasteful and respectful way. Remember these two people have old and very young family members likely in attendance, so make sure that the words you choose and the stories you care to share are something that a range of ears aren’t going to be offended to hear about. The last thing you want to do is cause a serious problem on your best friend’s big day.
Speaking of telling stories, there is nothing that can draw a crowd in quite like a good and exciting story about the person they are there to share the day/night with. Choose something that shows a humorous side of the bride or the groom, or that maybe points out one of their more apparent character flaws in a witty way. Some of the best stories that you can choose for an event like this are the ones that might be slightly embarrassing for the subject, but that is one of your favorite stories to tell anyone who will listen.
If you are still at a loss after your story brainstorming session and your time spent researching great wedding toasts online, it might be time to call in some reinforcements. As with any best man or maid of honor, you are going to have other groomsmen or bride’s maids to call upon to assist you with anything related to making the wedding go off without a hitch. Get some of the more quick witted and funny people in this group and ask them for a little bit of feedback and help in creating your memorable wedding speech.
These are just a few quick tips to get you moving on your wedding speeches. While it might be a pain, remember it is for a great reason. This is a time for celebration, so use these tips and put together a wedding toast that pops.