There is something about people talking about the bride and groom at a wedding that has become somewhat of a tradition over the years. While this at one time might have been a sweet and loving ordeal where people recount how perfect the two are for one another, the modern era has changed this iconic moment to give the best man or the maid of honour their five minutes of stand-up comedy fame. This tradition really sucks if you aren’t ready for the responsibility. So assuming that this is your job for the big event, it is time to think about how to make a great (and memorable) speech.
Toasts are not something that everyone is meant to do effectively. Some people might have the ‘gift of gab’ which can talk them through just about anything successfully. For those that have to do a lot more preparation for the speech, you might need to consider a few different approaches that can get you thinking in the right frame of mind. If comedy is what you are looking for you need to be thinking: old stories, obnoxious characteristics, and bringing it home at the end of the toast.
There is nothing that says relatable to the entire reception like a personal funny story that you have on your best friend. While there is plenty of room for edgy and sordid stories here for a little embarrassment factor to come into play, remember that a lot of this audience is just meeting the person you are talking about for the very first time. While it might be funny to talk about how your best friend once almost got you arrested for getting lippy with a police officer, it is not the time to talk about how you helped him keep his girlfriend and his side piece from running into each other at that one party. Just not the time or place.
Everyone, and that means everyone, has a trait that is just over the top to everyone else around them. So it stands to reason that the bride or groom you are toasting has a trait that people are just having a hard time dealing with. Maybe you are going to mention the fact that the bride has to wipe everyone’s faces when they eat like she’s their mother. Maybe the groom spends an abnormal amount of time getting ready for anywhere that he goes. Its little snippets like this that can help you get back to the main point of congratulating the two. “If he/she can put up with (insert any annoying quality) then it really must be true love!”
Bringing It Home
Toasts should never be more than 80% comedy. When you are winding your speech down, you need to focus on getting the point where everyone is on board with your congratulating the bride and groom. They aren’t going to be able to do that if they are mildly offended or if you are still making jokes. Time to bring in the sweetness to sprinkle over top of your sour. Cap your toast off right by naming a few amazing qualities of the groom or bride, and by saying how fitting it is that the two of them would find each other in this crazy world.
These are just a few key areas that you need to consider when it comes to wedding speeches. These should give you a little focus which will help you direct your efforts to a more concise speech that is devoid of fumbling through your words. It is all about the delivery, and if you get it right (which for some means practice it a few times on your own), then your speech will be one that the newlyweds are talking about for years to come.